FIGHT FOR YOUR FAMILIES

FIGHT FOR YOUR FAMILIES

By Dotty Schmiitt

As I reflect upon the more than 60 years of having walked with the Lord, never before have I observed such moral compromise, confusion and sin in our beloved nation of America. We have lost our moral compass because we have flagrantly ignored and disobeyed God’s clear mandates for us as a people. His Word is given to us, not to put us into bondage, but to set us free to live and enjoy life to the fullest.

To disregard the power of His commandments is to choose death and moral chaos. The words of Nehemiah call us to “fight for our families” in the face of the enemies of deception, lies, ridicule and insults. (Has there ever been a time in this nation when Bible-believing, praying people have come under such ridicule and intimidation?) The “politically correct” terms, such as “tolerance” and “acceptance” have been used to undermine clear biblical teachings on moral purity, sanctity of marriage, and the honoring of life from conception through old age. God celebrates life and commands us also to “choose life” by loving and obeying Him!

How then do we fight for our families?

  1. We will as adults live pure, obedient and joyful lives. (Deut. 6:1-4). We will lead our families by example!
  2. We will fervently pray and claim the promises of God. (Nehemiah 4:9; Isaiah 59:21)
  3. We will diligently teach the Scriptures both by example and by our words (Deuteronomy 6:6-9; 2 Timothy 3:16,17)
  4. We will nurture our families with life — imparting words of affection, affirmation, attention, availability and accountability. (Matthew 3:17)

Let us fill our homes with love, kindness, gratitude, praise and forgiveness! “… Remember the Lord, who is great and awesome, and fight for your families….” (Nehemiah 4:14b)

You are loved, Pastor Dotty Schmitt

6 thoughts on “FIGHT FOR YOUR FAMILIES

  1. Lord, I thank you for my family and I thank you for the wisdom you provide to navigate through the present day complexities that families face. When we follow the wisdom of the bible in an uncompromised fashion, you give stregnth to face the challenges in the face of the enemy who presents false images of what is acceptable. Thank you God for the victory to raise our children by your standards of truth!

  2. Some thoughts from the Lord as I was waking up on 6/19/13–

    We’re so busy informing, correcting and instructing each other on how things should be done, even the routine everyday things that we are not relating to one another.

    The Father is using the word “relate” in the sense that involves having meaningful social interactions, which would require that we pay more attention to those details that engage the spirit, rather than primarily the mind. He is interested in seeing our interactions raised to a much higher level, so that they encompass more spiritual substance and are therefore of greater spiritual worth. Though occasions in which we correct, instruct and inform one another are necessary, in interpersonal relationships between adults, they should be few and far between as they, in and of themselves do not promote unity.

    When expressions such as “I understand,” “I agree,” “This looks lovely,” and “I support you; you can count on me” are voiced (assuming they are sincere) in one-on-one relationships between adults, it indicates that we have moved to eye-level with each other in the spirit. This is where friendships begin and it is where the Father would like us to linger, because it is at this stage He begins the building process–uniting us as one in His Spirit. We may not always agree or understand each other but we do not need to make an issue of it because we are really on the same team. It is when we seek to understand each other, when we seek to agree and to impart affirmation, that we place ourselves in a position to edify one another and bring healing in ways we may not always be aware of.

    The Lord instructs us to be impartial and consistent in our communication at home, in church and in the workplace among colleagues, managers and staff. His standards do not vary from place to place. Moreover, the more effort we put into building and maintaining harmony, the more pathways we create for the Father to use in His communication back to us. Jesus tells us in Matthew 7:2 that “…with what measure ye mete, it shall be measured to you again.” Our relationships with God and each other are interwoven. “If a man say, I love God, and hateth his brother, he is a liar: for he that loveth not his brother whom he hath seen, how can he love God whom he hath not seen?” (1 John 4:20) The more distance we create between ourselves and others, the more difficult it would be for us to establish a friendship with the Creator. When we lean in to each other in the spirit, we create pathways in the spirit, “transmission lines” which God then uses in His fellowship with us on an individual level. It is a pattern created by the Father to bring us all into oneness with Him and each other.

    I believe we are being called to a higher standard of righteousness than the men and women of the Bible, such as Moses, Noah and Elijah. There are many reasons why, the most important of which may point to the fact that the entire Bible had not yet been put together during their lifetime. The Lord is evaluating His people based on the information available to them, what they have heard and have put into practice. In this hour, a greater emphasis is being placed on character and relational dynamics and the Lord is expecting us to follow His lead and be diligent about making changes in our behavior as they are revealed to us.

  3. HEBREWS 12:5-13 (KJV)

    And ye have forgotten the exhortation which speaketh unto you as unto children, My son, despise not thou the chastening of the Lord, nor faint when thou art rebuked of Him:

    For whom the Lord loveth He chasteneth, and scourgeth every son whom He receiveth.

    If ye endure chastening, God dealeth with you as with sons: for what son is he whom the father chasteneth not?

    But if ye be without chastisement, whereof all are partakers, then are ye bastards, and not sons.

    Furthermore we have had fathers of our flesh which corrected us, and we gave them reverence: shall we not much rather be in subjection unto the Father of spirits, and live?

    For they verily for a few days chastened us after their own pleasure; but He for our profit, that we might be partakers of His holiness.

    Now no chastening for the present seemeth to be joyous, but grievous: nevertheless afterward it yieldeth the peaceable fruit of righteousness unto them which are exercised thereby.

    Wherefore lift up the hands which hang down, and the feeble knees;

    And make straight paths for your feet, lest that which is lame be turned out of the way; but let it rather be healed.

    Children of God, Followers of Jesus Christ, Arise!

  4. The week of 5/8/13 I was given a dream in which I saw several pages of documents. On one of the pages I was able to read the words “the inequities of life.” A very thick book lay nearby with a red and white cover entitled, “The Policy…” (I was unable to decipher the rest of the title). But I have come to the conclusion that much has been written in the heavens about the subject of injustice. This might be because such situations can lead to significant adjustments in a person’s spiritual and emotional well-being–changes that no human counsel or force of will can affect in a substantial and lasting way. But it would take a powerful move of the Spirit in that person’s life to make them whole again.

    I’ve always been deeply concerned about the problems that occur in marriages, partly because I’ve witnessed the devastating effects that this has had on relatives and women that I hear about in the news. It is true that men are sometimes victims but domestic abuse is most often experienced by women. “Unto the woman,” the Lord said, “I will greatly multiply thy sorrow and thy conception; in sorrow thou shalt bring forth children; and thy desire shall be to thy husband, and he shall rule over thee.”(Genesis 3:16)

    As a consequence to Adam and Eve’s disobedience the Lord pronounced upon the human race–three curses, one on the man, which affects human beings in general– the frustration of trying to obtain food and sustain life here on earth and two on the woman– the physical pain of childbirth and the emotional pain of being in a marriage relationship with someone who would be more interested in ruling over her than in returning her love. As we know, the woman was given the lion’s share (of the curses) because she (Eve) was the one who first yielded to the temptation. Consequently, childbirth has been and still remains a painful process for women, though medication has been formulated to lessen the discomfort. Farming is still an arduous task today, but the use of technology has greatly diminished the burdens associated with it as well as other kinds of labor. However, with respect to the relationship between husbands and wives, we are still awaiting a “cure”–the desire of the woman will be to love her husband while his desire will be to rule or dominate her. There is a mismatch. But this is why it is called a curse. It was not designed to bring comfort and joy to the woman. The marriage relationship and everything that surrounds it is still an extremely traumatic experience.

    In the New Testament, some modifications were made to ease the struggle for women, such as, husbands should love their wives as Christ loves the church and wives should submit to and respect their husbands. The fact of the matter is that it is only when husbands and wives focus on developing good character traits such as gentleness, meekness, kindness, self-control, patience, and goodness–the fruit of the Spirit that God is honored in the home and harmony and peace could really be experienced in the marriage.

    Every day women are killed in nations around the world in the process of “being disciplined” by their husbands, for not producing a sufficient amount of dowry, for not wanting to get married to someone the parents had chosen for them, for giving birth to a girl instead of a boy, or for wanting to end a toxic and dangerous relationship, one in which the woman fears for her life. These are only a few of the reasons that have brought home to me how serious and desperate the situation is with regard to women, especially those in relationships. The pain some wives are expected to endure is indescribable.

    Some women show no visible scars as the abuse being experienced is emotional rather than physical. They are nevertheless dying inside. These wives suffer illness after illness as their wounds lie very deep. Many of them are Christians, with Christian husbands who are very active in the church and in their communities. They want to remain married, yet wonder about their ability to withstand the seemingly unending torture of being in a spiritually and emotionally unhealthy relationship. For these women, married life has become a place of captivity. I walked into such a home a few years ago. The family I knew very well; I also knew that the wife was submissive but that emotional abuse existed there; no physical force was being used. Both parents are Christians and very active in their church. The husband goes on missionary trips and is a deacon in the church. Yet because of the relationship he chose to have with his wife and children, one based on power and control, the home was not filled with love, light or the peace of God. In fact upon entering, the presence of evil was so strong, it was palpable, so much so that the children spoke in hushed tones. The home felt very, very “dark” and cold.

    Whenever a marriage centers on the wife’s submission, the curse is invoked and unfortunately, whether or not the wife submits, she will experience pain because this is what the curse was designed to do. It is a penalty for sin that was passed on to all women. A marriage that is built on authority and control will bring heartache on the part of the wife, regardless of how hard she tries to submit or please. The only fruits produced would be sickness and misery. When Jesus became a curse for us on the cross, He made it possible for these curses to be permanently removed from our lives. But for now, they still do exist. They are as real as the sicknesses and sins we deal with on a daily basis, which were also borne by Christ on the cross and are part of the plan of salvation that will be completed when the Lord returns. Accordingly, the human race is still suffering from the effects of the curses handed down in the Garden of Eden.

    Like all relationships, marriages are subject to all of the principles and standards that the Lord put in place to ensure that we cultivate strong, lasting bonds with each other. The operative word in both the first and second commandments is “love.” The Bible states that, among other things, love is kind. A husband’s responsibility to his wife is to love her as Christ loves the church, a task which no husband is capable of doing in his own strength. This can only be accomplished by way of surrender–a dying to self, for it is in Christ’s death, His submission to the Father’s will, that He demonstrated His love to the church and all mankind.

    A life of surrender cannot be produced by much prayer, worship, fasting, studying of the Word, tithing or serving, though these are all essential to Christian living. It can only be accomplished by the action of the Holy Spirit on a person’s heart, a heart that is open to continual cleansing and constructive and reconstructive work. A life of surrender requires a letting go of the opinions, ideas and habits produced by the self; he/she will no longer be one who is quick to anger, or given to arguing, criticizing and complaining, for the goal is the creation of a new identity and the loss of the old. This is not a spiritual concept but a new position in the Spirit that enables us to be more closely conformed to the image of Christ–one that is loving, humble, gentle, patient and kind. It is Christ living His life through us. Jesus actually takes our place. For a wife, she will, in fact, be submitting to the Lord, providing her husband has surrendered completely. A husband who is living a surrendered life will no longer feel the need to be “in control.” He will have given that control over to the Holy Spirit. All of his efforts will now be focused on relating in a way that would bless and edify his family, so that each family member feels safe and protected spiritually, emotionally and physically. The wife’s submission will no longer be an issue. His prayers will also not be hindered (1 Peter 3:7) because Christ will be the One praying to the Father through him. Similarly, wives are required to live a surrendered life, so that a new identity, that of Christ, can be formed in them. To do so, they would also need to be open to the guidance of the Spirit. Thus, for marriages to be successful they would have to be managed by the Holy Spirit, under Whose leadership the roles of husbands and wives would most assuredly fall into place, such that this holy covenant can indeed be a glorious representation of the Lord’s relationship with His people.

  5. LIFT UP YOUR HEADS

    I was reading some comments on 5/11/14 (Mother’s Day), by women who are in abusive relationships and time and time again they spoke of being very fearful, on a daily basis, and of feeling very helpless. Then for most of that night, the Lord kept me awake. I finally realized that He wanted me to intercede for these women, victims of domestic abuse, wherever they may be, in countries around the world.

    As I lifted up a cry to the Lord on behalf of these women, the Lord responded with this Word:

    No abusive situation is hidden from My view. I will set free those who are in need. The time has come for Me to act and I will do so quickly. There has never been a time when My Spirit was more sorely needed as at this hour. I hear the cry of many hearts. Blessing will come to those who wait for Me to act and I will do so suddenly. There will be no more delay.

    Amen.

    We are aware that domestic abuse can be both emotional (verbal or non-verbal) and physical. The Lord hates divorce but I believe He is so much more concerned about those circumstances in which people live constantly in fear for their lives and the lives of their children. Such situations are designed to prevent them from fulfilling the call placed upon their lives. These women are not sufficiently healthy, emotionally to focus in on finding their destiny and their place in the Body of Christ. As such, there are major gaps in the Body when these needs are not being addressed effectively. We need to always remember that our fight is not against flesh and blood, so these women are in circumstances that can only be resolved by the Power of God. They need an enormous amount of prayer power. On the other hand, they should not be treated like a herd of cattle but with a high level of sensitivity, dignity and honor, in complete contrast to the way they are being treated in their homes.

    Both men and women can be victims, but a much higher percentage of women find themselves in abusive relationships that can be very dangerous for the entire family, including the children. Many women feel trapped in their marriages-lifelong prisoners. To these women, I say, please do continue to hold on. God is going to rescue you. He will make a way of escape, because not only is He a God of miracle-working power but also a God who is full of compassion. Please know that I will be praying daily on your behalf.

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